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Monday, September 18 2023

Final Newsletter

 

You may have noticed a lack of postings in recent months.  This has been a combination of some illness and travel as well as the inevitable passing of time.  We started these Newsletters in February 2017, the time of our retirement with the goal of helping teachers deal with students with severe behaviours.  Now it is September 2023 and we have produced 243 Newsletters on our web page at no cost.  We have made the difficult decision to cease this practice.  Although we continue to research the causes of dysfunctional behaviour and best practice we believe the existing essays, along with the three books will remain a resource for all teachers.

 

The philosophy that underpins our work can be summarised as:

  1. The purpose of all behaviour is to maintain a sense of homeostatic equilibrium.  That is, we are driven to survive and reproduce.
  2. Our equilibrium is a balance between our personal needs, physical, social and intellectual. and the environment we are experiencing at that moment.
  3. When we are in a state of disequilibrium we become stressed and that stress initiates behaviour that we have learned brings us back into equilibrium.
  4. We first learn how to behave in early childhood and what we learn depends on the environment at that time.  Specifically, it is the interactions with our caregivers and their environment that will shape our behaviours.  Behaviours are governed by our memories of what happened before.
  5. Behaviours learned in early childhood are very powerful and hard to modify.
  6. Whether or not behaviour is functional depends on the similarity between the environment we were raised in and the one in which we are now functioning.
  7. To change behaviour you need:
    1. Consequences that reflect the environment in which the child now operates
    2. A relationship with the child that allows them to trust you.

These seven fundamentals may able to be summarised in these relatively simple statements but they are extremely interactive and behind each is a depth of detail. 

 

The consistent advice has been, and remains that the creation of an effective learning environment depends on structure, expectations and relationships, three seemingly simple practices.  However, this is like saying nuclear energy is generated by firing a neutron into a uranium atom to generate heat.  This is true but to actually achieve nuclear fission and harness it is extremely complex.  The creation of an effective learning environment, despite being built on those comfortable fundamentals, putting them into practice is demanding.

 

The site will remain until our current contract ends and you can access all these resources until that time arrives.  We will include a list with titles and dates at the end.  If you search through the resources we have left you can find detail that will allow you to understand this complexity and actually create such an environment.  If you make the effort, I believe you will have as wonderful a career as we have had.

 

So this is farewell -thanks for your support.

 

John and Marcia

 

 

 

Past Newsletters

 

Newsletter 1 – There is more to Bullying Than Meets the Eye

Newsletter 2 – Bullying and Power

Newsletter 3 - Dealing with Difficult Situations

Newsletter 4 - The Troublesome Teens

Newsletter 5 - Challenging Beliefs – Not So Easy

Newsletter 6 - The Great Lie

Newsletter 7 - True Grit

Newsletter 8 – Education the Over-Indulged and Narcistic Child

Newsletter 9 – Routine – Support for Student Expectations

Newsletter 10 - ADHD Is Real but what does it Mean for Teachers

Newsletter 11 - Self-Esteem or Self-Love

Newsletter 12 - The Intricacy of Stress

Newsletter 13 - Teaching our most Difficult Kids

Newsletter 14 - Toxic Shame

Newsletter 15 - Locus of Control

Newsletter 16 – Time Out

Newsletter 17 - Anxiety

Newsletter 18 - Teaching Practical Boundaries

Newsletter 19 - Integration of Dysfunctional Students

Newsletter 20 – Ethical Teaching – Morality in the Classroom

Newsletter 21 - Independent Behaviour Programs

Newsletter 22 - The Passive Aggressive Student

Newsletter 23 - Dealing with Difficult Students

Newsletter 24 – The Impact of Neglect

Newsletter 25 - Vacuous Shame

Newsletter 26 - Characteristics of the Abused Child

Newsletter 27 - The Silver Lining

Newsletter 28 - Physical Damage from Early Childhood Abuse

Newsletter 29 - Effective Behaviour Management

Newsletter 30 - Education for the Future

Newsletter 31 - Common Mistakes Teachers Make

Newsletter 32 – What’s in a Name?

Newsletter 33 – Boredom

Newsletter 34 – Anger Temporary Madness

Newsletter 35 - Educational Myths

Newsletter 36 – Boredom – Mark 2

Newsletter 37 - Creating a Purpose

Newsletter 38 - Foetal Alcohol Syndrome Disorder

Newsletter 39 – Relationships

Newsletter 40 - Emotions Direct Attention

Newsletter 41 - Dopamine

Newsletter 42 – Dopamine for Teachers

Newsletter 43 – Consequences

Newsletter 44 – Consequences not Punishment or Reward

Newsletter 45 – Taming that Difficult Class

Newsletter 46 - A Question of Choice

Newsletter 47 - At the Time – There is No Choice

Newsletter 48 - Planning for a Disaster

Newsletter 49 - A Question about Control in the ‘Structure’

Newsletter 50 – Rejection

Newsletter 51 - Different Expressions from an Abused History

Newsletter 52 - Relationships – They Know What You’re Thinking

Newsletter 53 - Dysfunctional Behaviour to Deal with Stress

Newsletter 54 - Attention Seeking

Newsletter 55- Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder

Newsletter 56 - The Tribal Classroom

Newsletter 57 - Theory of Mind

Newsletter 58 – Transference

Newsletter 59 - The Impact of Poverty and Neglect

Newsletter 60 - Accept Lack of Empathy – Just for Now

Newsletter 61 - Let It Go

Newsletter 62 – The Danger of Praise

Newsletter 63 – Areas of Indifference

Newsletter 64 - Getting to the Truth

Newsletter 65 - Resilience

Newsletter 66 - Boundary Considerations

Newsletter 67 – Dissociation

Newsletter 68 – Childhood Trauma

Newsletter 69 – Rituals

Newsletter 70 – Poverty and Student Success

Newsletter 71 - Respecting Other’s Boundaries

Newsletter 72 – Trust – The Glue that Sustains Relationships

Newsletter 73 – Testing Tough Kids

Newsletter 74 - End of Year Recovery

Newsletter 75 - Tips for Emotional Encounters

Newsletter 76 - The Impact of Language on the Behaviour

Newsletter 77 - 100 Ways to Say well Done

Newsletter 78 – Empathy

Newsletter 79 - Creativity

Newsletter 80 - A Timely Reminder

Newsletter 81 - Motivating Students

Newsletter 82 - Converting Teacher’s lessons to Intrinsic Motivation

Newsletter 83 - The Dishonourable Lie

Newsletter 84 – Malevolent - The Condemned Disability

Newsletter 85 – What are the Chances

Newsletter 86 - The impact of Abuse – It Depends how it Happens

Newsletter 87 - Perfectly Imperfect

Newsletter 88 – Addiction – Behaving to Avoid Stress

Newsletter 89 - Faulty Beliefs

Newsletter 90 – Mindfulness

Newsletter 91 - Beliefs

Newsletter 92 - Addiction - It's the Seeking not the Consumption

Newsletter 93 – Debriefing

Newsletter 94 - The Tribal Teacher

Newsletter 95 – Levels

Newsletter 96 - Creating Structure

Newsletter 97 – Student Stress

Newsletter 98 – ‘Do or Not Do’ - Yoda

Newsletter 99 - Looking After Yourself

Newsletter 100 - Recovery Time

Newsletter 101 - Sense of Self

Newsletter 102 - Sense of Self - Part 2

Newsletter 103 – Dreikurs’ Model of Behaviour

Newsletter 104 – Relatedness

Newsletter 105 - Drives and Needs

Newsletter 106 - Secondary Drives

Newsletter 107 - The Social Teacher

Newsletter 108 – Prejudice

Newsletter 109 - Another Year Over

Newsletter 110 - Sense of Self Continued

Newsletter 111 – Special Relationship

Newsletter 112 – Expectations

Newsletter 113 – Supportive Relationships

Newsletter 114 - The Importance of Emotions

Newsletter 115 – Conversations

Newsletter 116 - The Inner Critic

Newsletter 117 - Dealing with the Emotional Stress

Newsletter 118 - Developing Social Skills

Newsletter 119 – Avoiding Cabin Fever

Newsletter 120 - The Hidden Cost of on-Line Learning

Newsletter 121 – Trauma and the Environment

Newsletter 122 – Purpose

Newsletter 123. Toxic Resilience

Newsletter 124. Nature Vs Nurture

Newsletter 125. Structure

Newsletter 126.  Expectations

Newsletter 127. Pedagogy

Newsletter 128.  The Wounded Child

Newsletter 129.  Damage to the Brain

Newsletter 130.  Generating Stress

Newsletter 131.  The Complexity of Stress

Newsletter 132.  Routine

Newsletter 133.  Physical Damage from Early Childhood Abuse

Newsletter 134. Anxiety

Newsletter 135.  Toxic Shame

Newsletter 136. Dealing with the Exploding Kid

Newsletter 137. The Crisis Response

Newsletter 138. Personal Action in Times of Crisis

Newsletter 139. Making Matters Worse

Newsletter 140. Critical and Creative Thinking

Newsletter 141.  Be Persistently Consistent

Newsletter 142.  Creating a Calm Environment

Newsletter 143. Designing a Correction Plan

Newsletter 144. Dealing with Touching and Restraint

Newsletter 145. Theory of Mind

Newsletter 146. Communicating with Difficult Kids in Difficult Times

Newsletter 147. Prejudice

Newsletter 148.  Starting Off on the Right Foot

Newsletter 149. Beliefs

Newsletter 150. Structure in a Crisis

Newsletter 151. The ‘Gas-Light’

Newsletter 152.  Getting to the Truth

Newsletter 153.  Music

Newsletter 154.  Authenticity

Newsletter 155.  Supporting a Sense of Self

Newsletter 156.  Mono-Cultures

Newsletter 157.  Tips for Teaching Teenagers

Newsletter 158.  The Teens – a Time for Specific Change

Newsletter 159.  A Time for Reflection

Newsletter 160. Dealing with the Angry Ant

Newsletter 161. Dealing with Justified Anger

Newsletter 162.  Trauma Informed Teaching

Newsletter 163.  Restorative Justice - Proceed with Care

Newsletter 164.  The pursuit of Purpose

Newsletter 165. Hidden Types of Abuse

Newsletter 166.  Changing Behaviour

Newsletter 167.  Just Say No

Newsletter 168.  Achieving Excellence as a Teacher

Newsletter 169.  Indirect Bullying

Newsletter 170.  The Queen Bee

Newsletter 171.  Girls – They are Different

Newsletter 172.  Rewards and Punishments

Newsletter 173. Competence and Warmth

Newsletter 174. Student Discipline – What About Welfare

Newsletter 175.  Dealing with Students with Severely Dys. Beh’s.

Newsletter 176.  Multi-Tasking

Newsletter 177.  Emerging from Lockdown

Newsletter 178. Dealing with a Crisis

Newsletter 179.  Dealing with Student Anxiety

Newsletter 180.  Oppositional Defiance Disorder

Newsletter 181.  Modern Teenage Challenge

Newsletter 182. Teaching Truth Seeking

Newsletter 183. Creating Policy for Student Wellbeing

Newsletter 184.  Supporting a Sense of Self

Newsletter 185. Am Ignored but Vital Workload

Newsletter 186.  Beware of Despair

Newsletter 187.  Time for revision

Newsletter 188.  Acquisition and Memory of Behaviours 

Newsletter 189.  The Early Years and Dysfunctional Behaviour

Newsletter 190.  Early Childhood Modelling

Newsletter 191. The Importance of Stress

Newsletter 192. Early Childhood Trauma

Newsletter 193.  Dealing with the Impact of Early Childhood PTSD

Newsletter 194.  Boundaries - The Point of Contact

Newsletter 195. Dysfunctional Boundaries

Newsletter 196.  Identifying Source of Dysfunctional Behaviour

Newsletter 197.  Healthy Boundaries

Newsletter 198.  Stress

Newsletter 199.  Toxic Stress and Trauma

Newsletter 200. Toxic Shame Revision

Newsletter 201.  Message to Subscribers

Newsletter 202.   Survival Tips for Casual Teachers

Newsletter 203. Expectations for the Beginning Teacher

Newsletter 204.  The Importance of Personal Presentation

Newsletter 205.  Avoiding Manipulation

Newsletter 206.  Avoiding Manipulation Part 2

Newsletter 207.  Anxiety

Newsletter 208.  Patience Required for Real Change

Newsletter 109.  The Purpose of Education

Newsletter 210. Fiduciary Relationships

Newsletter 211. To Suspend - The Difficult Decision

Newsletter 212.  Return from Suspension

Newsletter 213.  Integration of Special Needs Kids

Newsletter 214.  Changing Students' Beliefs

Newsletter 215. Stress

Newsletter 216- The Problem of Dealing with Autistic and Neuro--Diverse Students

Newsletter 217. Why Changing Behaviour is so Difficult

Newsletter 218. Emotional Stupidity

Newsletter 219. The Purpose of Education

Newsletter 220. Modifying Behaviour

Newsletter 221. Three Strikes and You're Out

Newsletter 222. The Pain of Rejection

Newsletter 223.  Suspensions and Equity

Newsletter 224.  A Fresh Start

Newsletter 225.  Introduction to the Brain

Newsletter 226.  Evolution of the Brain

Newsletter 227.  Myaline

Newsletter 228.  Stress = Life

Newsletter 229.  The Wounded Child

Newsletter 230.  Neglect

Newsletter 231.  Abuse and Consequences

Newsletter 232.  Patterns of Abuse and Their Consequences

Newsletter 233.  Gender Differences in Dealing with Early Childhood Trauma

Newsletter 234.  Toxic Shame

Newsletter 235.  Early Childhood Rejection

Newsletter 236.  The Key is Stress Management

Newsletter 237.  The Impact of Elevated Stress

Newsletter 238. Boundaries

Newsletter 239. Boundaries for Teachers

Newsletter 240.  Authentic Teachers

Newsletter 241. Surviving an Out of Control Classroom

Newsletter 242. The Size of the Problem

Newsletter 243. Severe Dysfunctional Behaviour

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